Dumb

Med School - Toy Story

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I still honestly believe that leaving the post-bacc program saved my sanity and my family. I was killing myself. But honestly? I still can’t think too much about it because walking away from it left me questioning some of how I see myself.

Be prepared, I’m about to indulge in some serious self-pity.

I’m smart. I got excellent grades my whole life, and did it without working very hard. It’s just the way my brain works. I got used to, and very much liked, being good at academics.

So when I consistently got mediocre grades in that program? I hated every second of it. I KILLED myself studying, slept WAY too little, drank WAY too much coffee in a desperate attempt to pull off the grades I was used to, the grades I still believe I would have needed to get into med school.

And? I just couldn’t. Yes, there were some extenuating circumstances like raising a toddler and, more importantly in terms of disruption, my five hour daily commute. I firmly believe that if I’d lived much closer to or on campus, like I believe the other students did, I would have had an easier time. It still would have been tremendously hard for me, but I think I could have pulled it off. And sometimes that really gets to me, that I’ve walked away from a potentially great path because of circumstances beyond my control. That being said, in the end I really don’t think it was the right path for me.

A good hard look at my priorities actually had me wondering why I’d ever chosen the program in the first place. At what point did I decide that making a lot of money would be worth spending years away from Evi, as she blossomed and grew? I think it might have been doomed from the start. I would have missed her too much.

Sometimes though, I wonder if I really could have done it. Sometimes I fear I was just not smart enough. I was literally giving it everything I had (and then some) and just wasn’t keeping up. For someone who has always defined myself in terms of my academic achievement, who has drawn much of my sense of worth from my perceived intelligence, how do I come to terms with academic failure?

I don’t know. I’m not even sure why I’m writing about this now, except that I’m hormonal and the (largely) useless job hunt I’ve been plowing through since September is starting to wear on my sense of worth.

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Resolved

Panic

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I haven’t posted recently because I was too busy planning the Toddlerette’s birthday party. I waited for the end of the semester, which meant her party was 18 days after her actual 2nd birthday, but it was well worth the wait since it meant being relaxed enough to get the party planned, the cupcakes made, and have a good time without worrying about studying or homework.

Waiting also means I saved you all from reading a panic stricken, defeated, Armageddon style post about this semester’s grades. I finished Calculus with a B and Bio 2 with a C, leaving my GPA at a 2.5. After meeting with the assistant dean of medicine at Georgetown a few weeks ago, I know that I have very little chance of getting into any of the medical schools I want with less than a 3.6, so I ran a few calculations to figure out what I had to do in order to raise the 2.5 into a 3.6 by the time I leave the post-bacc program.

The answer? All As. Okay, one B… but the rest? As. ALL As.

Commence panic. I spent the good part of last week freaking out, knowing that I’ll never be able to pull off all As, and that there is only a tiny likelihood that I can manage an MCAT score so stellar that it makes up for the GPA. I’ll never get into the schools I want to apply to (and, for many complicated reasons, need to apply to) and I may not be competitive for any schools anywhere. I’ll have a hard time getting in, which means several extra years of work or school to make it easier to reapply with some success. I’ll be spending even more time just getting to medical school, and the clock is tick-ticking as it is. The medical schools I could get into assuming a lesser GPA will require a complete overhaul of our entire lives, uprooting my family, asking my husband to take on even more stress and financial burden, costing us money, and likely taking us away from our only source of income. I’ve totally screwed us and our future plans by sucking at biology.

…and then I found myself at the zoo, sitting in the shade on a beautiful spring day with my arms wrapped around the most beautiful two year old on the planet as she snoozed, utterly at peace, on her momma who she loves more than anything in the world. My husband, my strong, supportive, loving husband smiled beside me, marveling at how much he loves our family. I watched my brother and his wife and son as they explored the zoo exhibits… and something occurred to me.

I can do this. I can do whatever it takes. I can work as hard as possible. I can revise my battle plans, change my study tactics, reinvent my academic skills, and I can do this. I will keep taking classes. I will do the very best that I can. When it comes time to apply to medical schools, I will evaluate my chances and plan from there. If it means a school I wasn’t originally considering, which also means somewhere that will turn our lives upside down, then we’ll figure that out when it comes. The best I can do is all I can do. I WILL get into medical school, and I WILL make a better life for my family, for that precious little girl.

So take THAT, potentially ridiculous academic panic. All the things I was panicking about may still be true, but the key is that none of them matter. I will do my best, and I will find a way to make that work. I have the best support system in the world, and with their help this is going to happen. It may not happen my way. It probably won’t happen my way. It WILL happen.

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Updates, Tests, and Fevers

thermometer

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Well, I got my bio test back. Officially, before the curve and whatever other grade shifting may happen, I got a C. Since I got a D- on the last test and it ended up a B, I’m betting on a B for this one too and a high B for the class overall. Of course, there is some tiny chance I’ll blow the final away and squeak out an A, but I’ll happily settle for a B for my first semester at this level.

Calculus, on the other hand? I studied hard for that test, and I couldn’t figure out why nothing would stick in my head. I felt run down and out of sorts, but I just powered through. When I sat for the test, nothing made a lot of sense. I know I did pretty badly, although we won’t have grades back for a while. I’m hoping I can make it up on the final, but it turns out I was running a fever and had both a sinus infection AND strep while taking the test. So… at least I know why my brain refused to function properly. It won’t help my grade, but now I know I just need to really kill the final.

In vastly more fun news, I spent my four hour volunteer shift yesterday playing a Disney princess game on the Wii with a nine year old. It was awesome. THAT is what I love about volunteering in peds.

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Lag

Tulip garden

Photo by Heather Hurd, April 2010

Between spring break and the lost hour from the time change, I’m lagging a little right now. I’m keeping up, but barely, and I’m worried about the scramble that’s sure to happen before the next round of tests pops up.

I do feel like I have a decent handle on the biology material (though I thought so before I killed the last test…) and calculus is moving along. I still don’t feel confident in calculus, but I did manage a B on the midterm, so I’m feeling a lot better about it lately. I’m also seeing that I’m starting to pick up on a lot of the things that used to confuse me, so I’m hoping that means something good as well.

The weather is beautiful, of course, and that’s helping my mood and my activity levels, both of which should contribute something to my overall productivity. That being said, the weather is also verging on allergy time, which will suck, and I’m still having a lot of trouble adjusting my sleep lately. I’m blaming it on the time change and I’m not so sure that makes sense… but someone’s got to be blamed!

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Small fish

small fish, big pond

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I’m a big fish. I’m a straight As, top of my class, award winning, honors receiving, best-of-the-best student.

I get the highest grades in class. The professors know me by name because they’re so thrilled to have me in their classes. I’m not just a big fish, I’m THE big fish.

Except now? Now I’m not.

Now I’m a small fish. So small that I’m lucky if anyone even notices I AM a fish. I’m having a really hard time dealing with it. The biggest reason I’m freaked out about my biology grade (which will likely end up a low B after the curve) is not out of a sense that I’ll fail. It’s more that I’m not the best.

I know I’ve got to get over this, but how? And how do you maintain a sense of drive, motivation, and achievement when you’re trying to let go of wanting to be the best? How to you survive/compete/thrive in a competitive and challenging academic environment without that sense of disappointment in less than stellar results?

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List maker

to do list

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I’ve been making a lot of lists lately. To-do lists, homework lists, important dates, mailing addresses, potential medical schools, work hours, volunteer application checklists… It’s all about juggling the jillion things I have going right now and staying sane in the process. So far I’m managing pretty well, and even managing to make some inroads setting things in motion for future success. I’m reaching out to a dean who will work with me to perfect my med school applications and help me narrow down (or perhaps widen) my potential application pool. I’m trying to stay involved with the post-bacc group as much as possible in order to make friends and connections there. I’m working hard to be indispensable at my new job, where I stand to make some friends and contacts as well as earning an excellent resume point and a not-too-shabby wage.

I’ve planned out my classes through the end of the program at Georgetown, and provided no registrar mishaps implode my careful plans, I’ll be well prepared for the MCATs and for med school applications next summer. It seems at once to be both far, far away and RIGHT NOW. It’s a weird feeling.

My classes are going pretty well. Biology is… relatively easy right now, although the lab work is time consuming. Calculus is still a struggle, but I’m getting a lot of worthwhile help from friends who are math teachers/experts, so I’m lucky there. It’s a fortunate turn of events too, since it appears my teacher is not ideal for my learning style. He’s a nice enough man, and clearly a genius in his field, but he’s not very good at explaining things in more than one way, which makes it difficult when I don’t think like a mathematician. Lately, he’s been getting obviously frustrated when I don’t quickly grasp a concept, so I’ve abandoned his help in favor of my patient friends who are actually superb at explaining the concepts in a way anyone could understand. So I have faith that I’ll pass the course with a respectable grade at least, and in the end that’s all I can ask for now. I’d love to have a more than passing grasp of calculus, but for now I’ll settle for a passing grade. And just to clarify? For me personally, “passing” means a B or better.

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Allergic to calculus

peanut allergy

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You know what’s funny? Developing a latex allergy. There’s nothing quite as amusing as taking off your gloves after a microbiology lab to discover your hands are bright red and covered in raised, white welts. A good washing helped them a lot, so it’s clearly not a severe issue… but the timing of the discovery is amusing, no?

Fortunately, non-latex gloves are easy to find these days, so I’m not so worried about it. I’m planning to do a little more digging into latex allergies though, since it would seem that mine is either sudden, or has atleast only suddenly gotten worse. I’ve never had issues at the doctor’s office, and I know latex allergies usually go hand in hand with some food allergies, which (besides kiwi) I don’t seem to have… I’ve also been hearing that latex allergies are becoming more and more common, which leads me to wonder what is causing the increase, especially when more and more health professionals are using latex free gloves now.

In unrelated news, I spent ten minutes or so chatting with a medical student in the union yesterday. I can’t help but think of them as sort of rockstars, since they’re doing what I so want to be doing. Amusingly, he offered me two important facts, one comforting and one frightening.

  1. He applied to twelve medical schools and only got into one. Since my current application wish list is only 6-7 schools long, this scares me. Of course, I know nothing about the kind of student he was (is?) but it still gives me pause. I’ve made an appointment with one of the deans of the medical school who advises students and helps them prepare for med school applications, so I’m hoping meeting with him (early and often) will help me make sure I have better success with my applications. I don’t want to apply to ten billion schools since the applications can be expensive….
  2. It’s not insanely difficult. That’s right! He said medical school was not killing him. Yes, of course, he said it was difficult, but he said that the difficulty is well tempered by the fact that everything you’re doing is amazing, fascinating, exciting, and there’s a real sense that you’re making a difference. That is exactly what I needed to hear as I try to survive calculus….

Speaking of calculus, I feel like I’m missing something about the process of becoming a successful math student. I feel like I am grasping individual concepts with reasonable acuity, but when it comes to an overall, applicable understanding of the subject as a whole I’m just at a loss. Thoughts?  Advice?

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Research assistant

Research

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I am now, as of yesterday, a research assistant! After lots of job applications for various science and medical related jobs on campus, a few interviews, and a few unfortunate rejections thanks to scheduling issues, I found the perfect fit.

I’ll be working with a research study on campus, filling in the holes in their working group and essentially doing whatever needs to be done. I’ll be doing data entry on study results, having patient interactions with study participants, and getting the chance to know more about the ins and outs of the study itself which, vaguely, is dealing with the effects of probiotics on womens’ digestive tracts. It isn’t thrilling research, but it’s useful in day-to-day life, which makes it more exciting in some ways. Getting involved now also means that, provided grant money keeps coming, I might have the chance to stay involved with the department and work on their future studies. An upcoming study (late summer, I think) is dealing specifically with infants (no idea what the study is looking at) and I would LOVE to be involved with that one.

So… I’m on my way! I’m excited about being a part of something so new in a way that plays to all of my strengths. I type fast, I learn faster, and I love talking to people… even if I’ll be talking to them about their poop. Hey, I have a toddler. I know how to talk poop.

My next step is to finish my hospital volunteer application, which should be easy now that I have my immunization records in hand. Looking for a way to get your immunization records if, like most of us, you don’t see a regular doctor? Call your undergraduate institution. Most schools in the US require an immunization record prior to beginning course work there, so I called my school and they faxed me the records (for free!) in two days. Since that’s easily the most “difficult” part of the volunteer application, I’m hoping to have it turned in by the end of this week. Ideally I’d be working either in the NICU or in labor & delivery. I’d love to be useful in the antenatal ward as well. I think my dream position would be getting involved in all three places, which would be the perfect prep experience for my future plans!

It seems like everything is coming together! Now if I can just master calculus….

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13 days

13

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We’re thirteen days into the spring semester, and I am just now beginning to settle in. I’m nearly comfortable with the commute, no longer having to look up my classes to remember times or room numbers, and I’m reasonably comfortable with planning and scheduling for my homework. The work is hard, but not too hard, and I still have enough free time right now to study on campus and spend some time in the gym.

This afternoon I’m headed to an interview for a position as a research assistant. I’m looking forward to the chance to be directly involved in a job with a medical connection, and I’m hoping the interview goes well enough that I’ll be reporting on a new job by next week!

I’m also making an effort to be relatively active with the post-baccalaureate premed community on campus. It’s not always easy, since most of the meetings and events happen after I’ve already left campus for my long commute home, but I’m doing what I can to be a part of things, and I’m hoping to increase my role in the group as time goes on.

I’m also submitting my application to volunteer at the hospital this week. I figure the sooner I get it in, the sooner I can attend an orientation and get started, so I think it’s going to be a good thing.
Sometimes I worry about all of these time commitments and staying sane in the midst of a super busy schedule… but the truth is that I’ll find a way. I’ll get it done like I always do, because there is no other choice but to get it done. In fact, some of the most productive times of my life have been when my schedule was insane, because the more you have to do, the better you (or I, at least) become at following a schedule and sticking to it to make sure everything happens in its proper place and time.

Stay tuned, I’ll be back to report on my job adventure, volunteer progress, and more. I’ll also be sending my smock and badge back to my local hospital, along with a letter to the staff manager of the volunteer program detailing the horrid state of the program for new volunteers and the extreme difficulty and total lack of guidance from the department.

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Looking up

Calculus
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After several days of completely freaking out and viewing my calculus homework as though it were written in a foreign language, I’m finally feeling better.

Having trouble with a class? GO TO OFFICE HOURS. Less than one hour with my professor gave me a much better understanding of what I was having trouble with and what I needed to work on going forward. It’s also helping me to establish a good relationship with the professor, which could come in quite handy in semesters to come.

As for the rest, I lost one potential job thanks to not having the right availability, but I’m potentially being approved for work study which would mean eligibility for quite a few more on campus jobs. I’m also looking into how to start volunteering, as well as how to get involved with the (shockingly inactive) premed society on campus. It’s a busy life… but I’m enjoying the challenge.

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