So a funny thing’s happened in the last few days, that has (for better or worse) coincided with an oncoming cycle of hormones to send me into a three day spiral of calorie consumption and couch-sitting.
I don’t know about correlation or causality here, but it’s certainly linked somehow.
In the past four days, I’ve seen four people who haven’t seen me in months. One of them last saw me maybe two months ago, and the other three haven’t seen me for at least 4-5 months.
So what happened?
Not one of them mentioned me looking different or better. Not one.
Look, I know that shouldn’t matter. I know that my progress shouldn’t depend on other people. That being said, they all know I’m trying, so if they’re not mentioning it then I can only assume they don’t see a difference.
So why not? I just feel like I’m doing something wrong, and while the lack of commentary from friends and family is magnifying that feeling, it’s something I’ve been feeling for a few weeks. I feel stagnant to some degree, and specifically on a dietary front. I’m happy with my workouts, but the food? It’s gone totally haywire. In fact, the past two days have been full scale ridiculous.
I need to figure something out, something fast and easy that keeps me satisfied but changes things up somehow. Help?
If you want an accountability partner I would love to pair up after I get back from vacation. Just let me know.
Your fellow Lusbian,
Sarah
Sarah, that sounds awesome! What do you propose?
Not sure yet as my brain in in Vacay mode. Can we plan a chat the weekend after the 4th of July? I’ll message you on FB?
I hope you had a great vacation! Just FB message me when you get around to it!
One thought that immediately occurs to me is that if I notice a physical change in someone for the better, I am often afraid to mention it because it perhaps implies that I thought they didn’t look good before.
So it could very well be that they’ve noticed a difference, and even though they know you are trying, they aren’t confident enough to state it.
I did consider that too, which is why I’m trying not to think TOO hard about it…
Yes! I do this! I’m always weird about commenting when I notice people lose weight because I’m not sure if it sounds more complimentary than insulting. I know that’s probably silly but I’m so bad about that. And, people put such emotional value to words that I never know how to phrase it. “Have you lost weight?” seems silly sometimes since I know that my body changed even if I didn’t lose weight…I don’t know. I think I just overanalyze things too much and worry about hurting feelings.
So, Heather! Don’t fret! Some of us are just so paranoid we’re scared to say anything
I have to agree with Jeremy and Zoot…adding that one thing I have learned is that no one can make me feel anything. *I* have to feel it for myself. It has gotten to the point where I actually don’t want people to comment on how I look, but rather that they enjoyed talking with me or whatever. If that makes any sense. I used to be ALL ABOUT the “have you lost weight” comment, but time (and weight loss/gain) has shown me that there’s so much more to me than that. You too